…mean you see the stars the most.” – K.Flay

K.Flay is pure magic.

Let’s start with her show. From the controlled chaos in the live performance of “Black Wave” to the introspective and hope-filled lyrics of “Dreamers”, this ‘Frisco native was a late bloomer to her now quite obvious calling. The first time I saw her perform was in the summer of 2017 as an opening act for my favourites, Mother Mother. After the first 30 seconds of her opening song, I knew this was going to be a superstar. Mother Mother had their work cut out for them, that’s for sure…

She lit it up.

Huge highlight for me from that show was her impeccable lyricist ability and unreal flow. Her a Capella, free form rap, mixed in with edge electronica-fused alt rock was just something I’d never heard before. Stand out.

Diving in a little deeper, her story is quite impressive.

I want to look at a line in her opening track “Dreamers” off of her 2017 release Everywhere is Some Where

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I came to in a cold sweat with a nosebleed feeling hopeless
Thought I maybe might be dead til I got my pen sat down and wrote this 

Suddenly I felt fine inside a mind so full of ghosts
The darkest nights mean you see the stars the most

The endless hope in this line is the motivation for me to keep pushing. What’s it mean to you?

It’s Bell’s “Let’s Talk” Day here in Canada today. For every text, share and like on social media Bell donates a nickel to help the Canadian Mental Health Association bring awareness to something that affects the majority of us. Yet, we’re still blinded by a stigma that cripples lives. Join me in spreading the love, saying “what’s up” to someone today and asking how they are from a genuine place. If you suspect some one is dealing with mental health issues, don’t stand by. There are plenty of resources out there to help get people well. Mind and body.

Check out my friend, and former bandmate, Joel Porayko’s project video on bringing an end to the stigma. Big thanks to all of you put yourselves out there. My MusicFit crew, my RMH crew, your support is endless and I am forever grateful.

Contact any of these providers if you or someone you know is battling with mental illness. Together we can bring an end to the stigma. Get well. Stay well.

My Top Three Picks For Mental Health Wellness Counselling and Awareness

CMHA (Calgary) (local assistance programs, links and counselling)

Unison Benevolent Fund (national assistance program for musicians and industry)

Elephant Artist Relief (local artist relief organization, they also have a whole directory of related organizations in the US and Canada)

Until next time, namaste sweet. And open up that conversation…

M

 

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With the passing of yet another legend of popular culture, and another childhood hero of mine in Chester Bennington I have just one question: when are we going to wake up and start realizing there’s a problem and we need to do something to solve it?

I’m not suggesting rock stars get special treatment, but the level of fame, high stakes pressure and status is obviously taking its toll on the individuals we the public see as untouchable, perfect and with it all. These are the leaders that shape our youth and the stigma associated with mental health. If more celebrities, high profile artists and bands felt comfortable sharing their battles with depression, anxiety and other mental health issues then maybe the rest of us would feel better talking about it in an open forum much as we do about the flu, a rolled ankle or stubborn cough. It’s all sickness. Not optimized health. Mental vs. physical is irrelevant. It just needs to be discussed.

Clearly we are skipping steps. The industry needs to set up and advocate for a program of proactive health to which all areas of strength and confidence in both mental and physical wellbeing are treated. Here’s the thing:

I have the platform.

I wrote the book on it. Get it on Amazon – The Musician’s Guide To Surviving The Rock Star Lifestyle

I host the podcast to which we talk about it. Subscribe on iTunes – How To Survive The Rock Star Lifestyle Podcast

I train people to be fit, mentally, physically and emotionally. Check us out here – INLIV.com

All I need is the support.

Together we can help raise mental health awareness and break the stigma associated with depression, anxiety and addiction. Let’s talk, because I am sick of reading headlines like this every month or so about the rock idols that I grew up worshipping….

https://consequenceofsound.net/2017/07/r-i-p-chester-bennington-linkin-park-singer-has-died-at-age-of-41/

It’s getting really frustrating because it’s something we can fix by just opening up avenues of conversation.

Contact me here if you wish to speak on my podcast. You don’t have to be a rock star, musician or even musically inclined. However, if this story has made an impression, if you have been affected by mental health in any capacity, I want to offer you a platform to speak to it and inform others.

I am going to host a special edition podcast once we have some input in order to bring to light the darkness that is mental health awareness. It’s a safe, respectful, environment for those of you that wish to say anything about your experience with mental health. It can be a story, a specific experience you have had, how mental health has affected you or a friend/family member or how the loss of these amazing talents to something so silly has impacted your life…. anything at all. Even just a quick few sentences. I want your stories to help others realize there’s outlets for assistance. There are places to seek help and a community that supports you in your darkest of places. Together we can break the stigma. I’ve been down that road a couple times myself, but fortunately never to the point that some get to because I’ve had resources to help me through. Let’s showcase these resources for others that may not be aware. Let’s make it cool to talk about mental health.

I’m here to share your story. Please help me break the stigma!