The only words to escape my empty mind at the time. Fast forward to a couple nights ago. Similar in approach to a tee.
See, human beings are fascinating creatures. Oftentimes we tend to think about all the things at the end of the road. Meanwhile, we have missed the beauty of the turns, the hills and the coastal view all along the way.
It’s right in front of you.
But only when you’re ready will your eyes clear the fog and let you see for yourself.
And that’s okay.
We’ve got all the time in the world. It just likes to chase us.
In the wake of this Donald Trump fiasco to the south, I figured I’d take this opportunity to express my feelings towards the topic of sexuality in my industry. As disgusting of a situation this is in the USA right now, it brings out some voices that otherwise may not have been heard or had a chance to speak up against some issues that have been a great source of pain for far too long, some times a lifetime. Also, being it Canadian Thanksgiving, I feel it’s important to remember what we’re grateful for and part of that is the right to express our views and especially in my forum, a good, honest discussion on the role of Women in the Fitness Industry.
Before I begin, I want to be clear that I have studied gender politics, sexual ethics and socio-economic trends at the post secondary level. So while I’m still expressing my opinion in the article, I’m not coming from left field on these hot issues. Now that that’s out there, lets crack on!
Who’s the Villain?
Okay. So Trump is a misogynist, womanizer, elitist, sexist prick. Does any of this surprise you? If so, it shouldn’t. The way we in the western culture have portrayed women (for the most part) sickens me at times. The fitness industry alone has a horrid reputation for mistaking strong, sexy and smart for “eye-candy” amongst both sexes (arguably not nearly as dominant with men, but it still exists). What I do know about the human condition is that we are a product of our experience. It’d be a cold day in hell if I were to ever defend such a tyrannical, gut-twisting, dumb-ass waste of space such as Donald Trump, but this Americanized culture likely has a lot to do with why he feels it’s okay to say “grab them by the pussy” in any sort of context.
True. Sad, but true. I’ll admit, I’ve used it in my marketing. I’m not even sure why, other than because “every lady wants a nice bum from squats…” right? Wrong, perhaps. And just piling on the stigma that already exists, perhaps (until I figure out why I actually would use this style marketing, I will refrain from using it in the future).
The problem lays within the context though. We in the fitness industry are so fucking fixated on what it means to be “fit” that of course the scantily-clad supermodel holding 5lb dumbbells just off her hips which are covered in tight booty shorts as she’s leaning up against a smith machine (useless) with perfect hair, perfect makeup and a perfect smile looks like an ideal world. Clearly, this supermodel has never lifted a weight in her life if THAT is what she can honestly portray as an accurate representation of her experience in the gym. Like holy fuck! I’m no specialist but if I’m not soaked in 2 lbs of my own sweat, gasping for air, and looking like a disheveled mess… basically crying by the end of a weight session, I know I’ve done something wrong. That’s the reality. Not this super-sexy, everyone-is-gorgeous bullshit. Because I can even feel my legs, I’m happy. Never mind primping them up for a nice tush shot…
That’s exactly it. The societal norms have altered our perception of what it means to be fit and in doing so, unfairly painted a sex-fused, unequal standard of what it means to be a woman in the fitness industry. This spans not just enthusiasts, but also professional women in the workplace. I’m happy to see my fellow women colleagues keep on kickin’ ass despite the typical comments like “oh, she’s hot – she’ll do good.” Sometimes I have to give my head a shake.
“Oh she’s hot, so she’ll do good? Good at what, exactly “Mr. Rolex, BMW, clearly money-ain’t-a-thing sexist fuck?”
How about she’s a compassionate human being, with education and willingness to work harder for everything because of her drive to break free of the perception that she was hot and therefore successful as set onto her by ignorant, sexist asshats like yourself all her life? Besides that, she can out squat you by 45lbs already. Maybe that’s what will lead to her success?
If we want to inspire change, we should start to change the way we look at “normal”. Our reality is what we make it. I’m thinking we could be doing better at this in fitness. Let’s get away from women being sex-candy for the testosterone driven monkeys running the advertising campaigns.
Strong is the New Sexy.
I’m a big fan of this movement. And more than just the conventional “strong” as in I can ________ this much weight. No, no, no. I talk about the three pillars of a my self-improvement being movement, nutrition and mindset. So when we spend all our time improving one over the other, the castle crumbles. You want to be king or queen of your own destiny, right? Well, let’s start paying attention to a strong mind to be able to say “not right now” instead of “no”. Or maybe it’s a strong willpower to pick up the salad option and water, instead of the beer and wings when you’re out with the squad. It’s not entirely about movement and I think if we focus less on the physical results we can attain from leading a healthy lifestyle, and instead turn our focus into deeper rooted, less tangible but more fulfilling success (i.e.. sleeping 8 hours consistently each night, waking up excited for the day and removing the anxiety when you take public transit and have to be comfortable in your own skin amongst others that may judge you…) we will tend to see a shift in how our bodies represent this in social media.
Before you go…
I want to be clear that in no way am I suggesting that if you’re a woman you should be ashamed to dress the way you feel sexiest. That’s not it at all. I am actually quite encouraging of that. I am making a statement that I think it’s about time we turn our focus away from the idea of women being objectified in fitness. Not saying it’s 100% of the time, just like I’d never say “all dudes lift, bro!” and take selfies in the bathroom in between sets. But, there’s a stereotype for a reason and if we ever want to crash the walls down to promote awareness on hot topics such as sexual abuse, rape, underage trafficking and the like… we should start by looking at what’s already been desensitized in our culture. Oftentimes in fitness what’s “normal” isn’t what’s healthy. I think a parallel could be drawn for women and the role they have in fitness. Time to shape up, wouldn’t you say?
Remember, you don’t have to be a rock star to start, but you have to start in order to become a rock star. Stay sweet, folks.
This may cause a bit of backlash, but I’m okay with that. I know I’m ass-king for it….
To be efficient in simple movements such as taking the stairs, running and picking things up you must use your butt. Weird huh? Well here’s the thing. There’s a strong correlation between a nice butt and a functional butt. So today I wanted to give you a few exercise tips to make good use of your butt and also help keep it in a nice shape!
Be sure to get past 90 degrees when able to. When you get deeper in the range, more glute will be recruited along with hamstrings in order to help you get up from that position. It’s essential that you get past 90 in order to effectively fire that butt without relying on your quads or your hamstrings for the whole movement.
Kettle bell swings
Explosiveness is key to firing the glutes! A strong majority of the muscle fibres of the glutes are quick twitch. This means you’ll grow more tissue faster if you perform quick exercises. Cool huh? Ensure you’re squeezing your quads and your butt while driving your heels into the ground. Hyperextending your back does nothing but increase the risk of lower back injury. Don’t do that. Instead, think about full extension of your hips coming “up” rather than pushing forward. Pow!
Lateral speed skaters
Lateral stability relies on the muscles of the butt to engage in a different plane. This will shake up the body and activate new wiring to promote quicker results. Start off with just stepping to the side if you do not feel confident in landing with the “nose, knees, toes” in alignment principle
Speed skater deadlifts
Concentrate your glute activation in the stabilizing (front) leg and you’ll feel a world of hurt in your butt. This is simply from stabilizing and preventing yourself from falling over. To feel this, without risking death or death-like symptoms, start with just bodyweight until you can effectively hinge from the waist for 20 repetitions on either side without losing form. Then you can add a dumbbell in the opposite hand as your front leg.
Pigeon-Toed Monster Walks
Again with the lateral movement to really hit your gluteus medius. Do this one nice and slow without bouncing your hips and chest up and down from stride to stride. This will ensure maximal time under tension for the drill and really get a nice burning feeling going in your keister. Point the lead toe back in so you walk sideways with a leading heel for an extra kick in the ass
Here’s a video from one of my heroes of the industry, Mr. Paul Chek that expands on some of the theories I discuss here. Check it out and be sure to email me at email@example.com if you have any questions or comments!
He will never actually tell you how awesome he is. Or how much he’s improved. I seriously have to shake my head some days when the Blizzard shows up, game face on and ready to rock. Day in and day out, his commitment to bettering himself is remarkable. From all accounts, this was not the same human being one year ago.
Since the fall, I have been lucky enough to join the Blizzard in helping him to achieve his goals, both physically and (I’d argue more importantly) psychologically. This man has transformed his perspective in ways only an outsider can properly recognize and that’s one of the coolest things to bear witness to.
For me, I get to watch as his conditioning, coordination and mobility improves and watch his spot on mental toughness. I’ll give him a drill that clearly takes every ounce of will power to keep at (ascending-descending KB swings amongst other things..) but yet… he consistently fights through it. Pain free (just about) now, the Blizzard is looking to make another two weeks of solid recovery while I’m away his most worthwhile time to himself. Upon my return, and barring any unforeseen circumstances – we are going to take a serious look at some olympic style weight lifting to see if we can start to accelerate some of the physical goals we set out no more than 3 months ago.
Blizzard, you’re an inspiration for me. Your energy is tenfold from the time we met and you clearly have made significant changes in your life to be able to be where you are now. Keep at it. You push through so much and take care of everyone around you and still take the proverbial bull by the horns and make sure you rock your body like the backstreet boys. Keep at it, man. I’m excited to see what comes after May.
You don’t have to be a rock star to start, but you have to start in order to become a rock star.