It’s been a minute, hasn’t it?

Some time since we’ve talked about some motivation. Well, today I had a case of the un-motivation… and I was struggling to get moving even! I was just happy to lie in bed and do nothing…maybe scroll Facebook or Instagram… then in my self-sabotaging screen time ways, I came across an email from co-founder of Procabulary and my good friend, Mark England. The title was this: “High Level Tools (How to UnStuck your World)” here’s a link to Mark’s site – procabulary.org

In this email (and video) Mark discusses how to get out of the rut of negativity you’re in by simply adjusting how you frame your thoughts about your situation that you’ve found yourself stuck in. I won’t spoil the surprise, and I’d suggest you check his work out if you’re feeling like you’re stuck, if you want to be more productive or if you’re going through a transition in life. Procabulary has really helped me reframe the way I think about things.

That said, I put the phone down and grabbed Darwin’s leash, some water, Moneyball and headed out for a long walk. Where to? Wasn’t really sure, so I texted a friend and made some plans to meet up. I had the headphones on and since it had been some time since I listened to a full podcast I pulled up Tim Ferriss and threw on an episode. It was an entrepreneurial episode, as Tim often has those type of folks on as guest and I was tuned in and ready to learn.

The cofounder of Airbnb, Joe Gebbia had some wonderful insight.. and actually a great way of looking at things from a creative standpoint, so this one goes out to all my creatives reading.

SW²+WC=MO

What’s that stand for?

When you have a new idea to present to the world you’ll find some that Will love it, some that Won’t plus Who Cares? Equals Move On. Keep going until you find the people that do love your idea.

It was really quite fascinating and made some things click. Check it out

Tim Ferris Show #301: Joe Gebbia: Cofounder of Airbnb

Needless to say I came back in much better spirits and with more direction and a little fuel. Hopefully the next time you’re down, you’ll remember this post and come back too. Oh? hanging with Alicia was awesome too, we bounced ideas off one another and got to catch up PLUS a giant movie in the park was about to start. I chose to walk back home and start my laundry and meal prep. Pictures are on my Instagram story, give that a follow www.instagram.com/usetheschwartzy

Adult life.

Have a good sleep or morning, wherever you are. Keep on creating and you’ll find those that love your idea.

Boom. Go be awesome.

xo

M

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Not everything is going to go to plan. You may not win everything you set out to do. You may fail.

I once heard “failure is a sign you’re trying…”

I also adopted this philosophy into my personal life recently:

“When you try, you will fail. It’s only an issue when you fail to try.”

So let this message resonate with you however it may. Maybe you’re an athlete, hellbent on winning first every time. Maybe you have kids and you share this mantra with them, consciously or subconsciously. Maybe they feel the need to always come out on top, with grades, sports etc… Whatever it is, just remember that it’s health to be okay. When you learn how to lose, you’ll really start to win.

Ever heard this: “once you learn to fall you’ve got it.”

I didn’t really start to trust myself on speed skates until I fell heading into my final corner of the mid season competitions in 2015. I was set to PR by at least a couple seconds. Instead, I lost focus and slammed into the padded boards, laid motionless until my body and mind processed what had just happened.

That was the only time I fell. Period.

Are you okay with just being okay every now and again?

Food for thought.

Peace. I’m off to Ontario now.

Much love.

I felt it as I gently nodded off.

So real, my screams of panic and terror muted by the overwhelming silence of loneliness, failure and disappointment.

Nobody cared anyway, so why should they now?

I was naive to think that even though I felt the pressure on my skin… my face… my chest compressed as my head felt as though it was going to explode into a million parts. My innocent nature wasn’t prepared for this brief nightmare, stretching my mind deep into my pillow, leaving the rest of my physical body to the vultures.

How foolish of me to operate like all systems go after nearly suffocating in the sadness of my past few years.

I know now that the nightmare that likely only lasted 12 seconds was an eternity of unaddressed trauma.

Time to wake up.

… of the Towers and Trees,

They hit up Sneaky Dee’s,

Now they wait in the YYC.

Connecting to the coast,

To the west they love the most,

The Westjet girl was s’posed,

To bring my coffee: darkest roast

Davey, Davey, Davey, can’t you see

Sometimes your D’s just hypnotize me.

Alright… a little context now, right?

Little did I know when I booked the earliest flight home to Calgary, I’d have the opportunity to sit with a couple of new best buds of Towers and Trees, the Dave’s. AKA: Double Dee’s.

I bought the dude that had the aisle seat with these two guys off with a copy of my book. (Turns out his name is Wes, and he loved the book. Works with heavy equipment and is always sore. Loves music. Wanted it autographed, so of course I was pumped to hear that. )

Point being, do well. It’s important to do good, but it’s more important to do well.

Be kind to everyone you interact with. I’m flying back in to TO in a couple weeks because of that exact mentality. Good hangs always win.

More to come in the next few days… just stay tuned. And try to keep up, it’s insane in my life these days. Good kinda insane.

Catch y’all soon!

Xo

Wow, Toronto. We have a couple more days together before it’s back home to Calgary. Canadian Music Week has been amazing, our panel went great, I met so many artists and industry express their gratitude for the work I am doing with MusicFit Collective, artists’ health and wellness and everything in between and overall I have just really enjoyed all the new, lifelong relationships I have made.

Now, this week is a bit ironic in a sense. That’s right, I was invited out here to talk about the affect on creativity and performance from a physical and mental wellness standpoint. However, the conference itself isn’t set up to give attendees the ability to put into practice some of the insight I shared.

These 5 days are intense. Late nights catching bands, earlier mornings to attend conferences. Showing up for bed at 3am isn’t conducive to a 8am wake up, but alas – we hustle through it. I’m a part of it to. I’m no different. Right there with ’em all in the thick of it.

I do emphasize the importance of thinking progress over perfection. Choose the best route for you in the given situation, don’t shame yourself for what is the perfect choice as oftentimes it is unrealistic. If it’s temporary and you recognize that, take ease in knowing that you are accountable to your choices and clean the slate when given the chance.

We often get dealt an unfavourable hand, it’s all in how you choose to play the game.

1% every day

See you next time, stay sweet!

Xo

Hey folks, it’s been a minute. I know. Lots has gone on out here in Toronto, as I hear up for my panel on Thursday. So much excite. So much still to get done.

This city is beautiful. There’s something to be said about fitting in vs. belonging. One of my favourites, Simon Sinek dug up an article written by one David Mead that speaks to that eloquently right here: Fitting in vs. Belonging

I have had a bit of a time trying to stay mindful and in full practice of my habits and behaviours, but wowza! It’s tough in the road. I want to be better at just reading my lessons and staying in touch with my athletes, but it’s rather difficult living out of a suitcase. Pleasant reminder of why I’m doing what I’m doing in the first place. I can only imagine the difficulty for an artist who’s not trained in this stuff.

I ran a 10km with my new friend and fellow panelist, Andre. That was certainly a bright point as far as fitness on the road went. Just under an hour too. There’s been a silly amount of walking (north of 10km every day…) but I just started running with Dre at his condo and once we started talking…

Goes to show the value of social support. And that’s where I’ll leave it today. If you’re immersed in an environment that doesn’t fully support your behaviour, your goals, your drive… the likelihood of you reaching your goals significantly falls. Keep that in mind when you receive a response that isn’t what you’d like from your tribe. It may be time to expand that tribe.

Cheers from TO,

XO

Describe a situation that you’ve felt you’ve been wronged.

Describe in as much detail as you can why you’ve been wronged. Describe that person.

Did you describe them with any positive words?

How did the situation make you feel? Who was involved? How did it radically change you values? Your opinions of others? Your generalized opinion of the world? How did you have to change your life?

Define the word “forgiveness” without using a dictionary.

Can you forgive whoever did you wrong in the situation? Even if you choose not to forgive right now, what good could come of forgiving that person?

Put yourself in the place of the person that did you wrong. How could their childhood played a role in the incident? How do you think they felt when they did you wrong?

How does it feel to forgive the wrong-doer? And in what ways have you grown?