Describe a situation that you’ve felt you’ve been wronged.

Describe in as much detail as you can why you’ve been wronged. Describe that person?

Did you describe them with any positive words?

How did the situation make you feel? Who was involved? How did it radically change you values? Your opinions of others? Your generalized opinion of the world? How did you have to change your life?

Define the word “forgiveness” without using a dictionary.

Can you forgive whoever did you wrong in the situation? Even if you choose not to forgive right now, what good could come of forgiving that person?

Put yourself in the place of the person that did you wrong. How could their childhood played a role in the incident? How do you think they felt when they did you wrong?

How does it feel to forgive the wrong-doer? And in what ways have you grown?

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Sure, we all want to lose 10 pounds yesterday… but how we are pushed towards the ability to do that isn’t realistic, is it?

“Lose 12 pounds in 12 days!”

“Drop a dress size over the weekend!”

“New radical diet that burns 3lbs of fat in a week!”

None of these are sustainable, even if they do work.

Sustainable coaching comes with trades. As a coach that prides himself in helping my athletes through “the grind”, the tough plateaus, the unmotivated morning of training after a wild weekend of partying and misbehaviour… I prefer to coach on the foundation of sustainability.

I like changing a person’s entire lifestyle: the way they move, the way their relationships improve, the way they feel when they get up each day, stay happy and engaged at work and then return in the evening with energy to play with their kids. I like that. I get more satisfaction from hearing: “my husband and I now enjoy taking the grandkids out to the playground or out hiking with the dogs on the weekend. We never thought that would happen at this age… thank you.”

Over:

“my six pack was looking better than last summer at the cabin…”

I mean, there’s nothing wrong with aesthetic goals or short term programming, but I’m in the business of changing lives. And that is just a tough gig when you throw crash diets, quick exercise programs and the next fab “service” out there. Of course the people will get results. They’re highly motivated for 4 weeks. But what happens after that? When the eat kale, drink more smoothies and less beer realities kick in?

Think about it this way:

You’re super Mario. Bopping around, jumping over turtles and trying to save the princess. What I do as your coach isn’t just give you the flowers, the stars or any of the other power ups – no, no. They’ll always be there. I teach you how to harness those super powers so you fly through life feeling invincible.

That’s sustainability.

I coach you to be sustainable.

Xo

So there’s a reason California and other Mediterranean, coastal or otherwise temperate, sunny climates are home to a generally more active demographic: they like to be outside!

I took nearly all of my sessions outside today when applicable, and boy oh boy was that ever a good call! Everyone pumps harder, doesn’t realize it and then wonders why the next few days their legs feel like linguine and they can’t reach above their heads.

We are meant to move in nature.

Go outside and immerse yourself.

Go play.

Have you ever wanted just to numb the pain away?

But a car is spinning tires just outside Blush Lane

They ask for help, you – “of course!”, there is no other way

Their smiles make it hard, at least not today

Have you ever just wanted to grow up and blow away?

Up in the clouds where you’re dreaming almost every single day…

With blinders on you’ll never see or taste or hear them say,

Thanks for stopping to lend a hand so I can get up on my way

I just want to feel loved

Iwant to feel comfortable inside my skin

I want to feel loved (ahwoo!)

Gotta feel it from within

So now it all seems trivial, the things that I could say

Nostalgia of my childhood dreams, for them – just ripped away

Maybe when the time is right, we’ll drop the puck and play,

And kiss and hug and sing and dance as if we’re gone today

I just want to feel loved

I want to feel comfortable inside my skin

I want to feel loved (ahwoo!)

Gotta feel it from within

The relationship we have with our lifestyle is a learned skill. That means it can be changed. In order to foster and develop a healthy environment, one of the first things we must do is provide accessible education. By empowering individuals to make lifestyle choices for themselves, we will create a culture people will gravitate towards. That’s super rad.

Xo

M

A little context

The following is a piece of poetry I just wrote. Last night I was at the Our Lady Peace concert and before OLP closed the night off, they made sure to dedicate a song to Matt Good. To paraphrase Raine Maida, he’s been an amazingly strong voice and brave ambassador in the fight against the stigma of mental illness. “It doesn’t matter if you’re f*cked up here (points to his head) or if you break your arm, it’s all the same. And we need to support each other instead of running away and give each other a safe space while we get better.”

Talking about mental health is slowly becoming a more common occurrence and it’s platforms like this with influencers like OLP and Matt Good that can make a difference.

If you know someone suffering, please reach out and get them help. There are local distress centres in just about every major Canadian city, and if you’re an artist like me, there are specific organizations to help you continue to craft. You can call Unison Benevolent Fund to speak with a counsellor. Call emergency of course if it’s an emergency, but head to unisonfund.ca and register your free account so when you feel you need some help, support or emergency relief, they’re there for you. Completely confidential, completely on your side.

Like I said, this is a piece of poetry I just wrote. I’m working on a solo singer/songwriter project, learning to write and perform pieces like this on an acoustic as nice, safe outlet for my own self care and enjoyment. It also provides me with a platform to get my message out to the world. I hope you dig.

Soundtrack Of My Life LP

No matter if it’s all in your head

A broken arm,

or what pills you’ve been fed

We’ll be right there with you, baby

We can’t escape from a living hell

The chaotic neutral,

Disempowering spell

So we’ll be right there with you, baby.

Time ticks on

Can’t see

We’re blind

Can’t hear

The cries

Out for someone “help me please

I’ve fallen again, actually”

You see

It goes

You heard

The notes

Songs that bring hope to me

The soundtrack of my life LP

I just had a brief “aha” as I was perusing through my social media feeds…

Authenticity.

Is it today’s overused catchphrase. A trend? Or can we still milk some sort of value amidst the shadows of hashtags, followers, filters, overproduced content and the need for the dopamine hits that result from that pesky like button.

Do you agree with me? Listen in here. “Authenticity”