This thought brought to you by nearly 12 years of hardship, trials and tribulations and a ton of goofing up along the way and figuring shit out the hard way. Think about this one for a hot minute. Our social support system is critical to determining whether or not we keep on pushing through with goals and aspirations or if we give up. Do you really want it? Do you like the idea of wanting it? I’ll use my experience as an example, please let me know if you can relate…

I have spent so much time in my own space, developing my craft, fighting to be heard, struggling – really struggling. Some people, often closest to me have told me to give up. Others call me stubborn, or even just plain stupid. It’s not like that to me. It’s not a choice. I would rather wonder where my paycheque was and continue to make positive impact in the lives of others than go work for some company and build their dream. I truly don’t know what I’d be doing if I was not a catalyst for lifestyle change in others’ lives.

I’ve had a lot of time to think about the next thing, the next way to inspire to the masses, another promotional strategy to communicate my message …the list goes on and on… it’s really quite a thing for me. My overactive mind still sometimes gets the best of me and I find myself reeling these extravagant thoughts and dreams of creativity and purpose in so that it’s fuel to the fire. But at times, it goes unnoticed. Actually, I feel like most often it goes unnoticed. That’s okay though, except for when it crosses a certain line. I am human and emotions do play a role.

More often than not, I’m the butt of most insensitive jokes. What’s batshit crazy about that, is that the jokes come from people you wouldn’t expect. Just little shots from those on the sidelines, not really sure what I’m doing behind the scenes and clearly not in tune with how the words they speak may affect others around them.

“Will you pay me in exposure.”

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This is a real example from a real person in my life. A person I would have in the past called a friend. Harmless or not, the demeaning nature of this comment temporarily derailed my train from the tracks of my greater purpose. It was like a callous shot in the arm. A sting from a wasp. Albeit temporary, I’m not going to die (thank the heavens I learned this past summer that I’m not allergic to stings!) it still hurts like hell.

Why?

Because it’s from the perspective of an individual closer to me (although now that could be argued) than a random person. A person that knows (some of) my story and has seen my growth, seen my shortcomings and been there on the path for some of it. They were not alongside me shoulder to shoulder, but ironically enough I met this person and had a positive impact on their lifestyle. Typical me, years ago we met and  I provided my professional services to incorporate wellness into a lifestyle darkened by poor nutrition, alcoholism and inactivity, stress and so on and so forth…. So the comment itself bamboozles me. And feel free to use that word when given the opportunity this week. It’s under-utilized. Anyway, I know my value and was miffed by the lack of discretion. I felt like calling them out with something like:

“Hello, we got on so well because we learned from each other in times of critical need. Now you want to dismiss the work that I do because of whatever insecurities or predisposed commentary you have about my business practices…”

I did throw fire back, unapologetically – as this wasn’t the first time this individual made the exact same discerning comment. I laughed it off the first time, something like 6 months ago… but once the knife is in and turned a couple times around it’s hard to not take things personally… you know?

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However, today as I look back on it, I have let that shit go. It was not a personal attack against me. Who knows what the people around us are going through. They could be just reacting and projecting a story they have in their head about you. And that brings me finally, to my main point. Ta da! See? Full circle…

The people we hold closest to us in our personal lives have a story they’ve built up about us. So no matter what you accomplish professionally, no matter how much experience you gain in your field, you’ll always be “sonny”, “baby brother” or “one of the boys”, “daddy’s girl” the “party girl” or “wild child” or whoever you were to them when they met you.

You’ll only become a prophet once you leave your hometown.

 


 

Now, for those of you wondering what the heck I was getting flack on Facebook about anyway, I actually made a calling for an IT/Web design tech savvy person to bounce some ideas and see what they would recommend for a project I’ve been working at for a while; my new online store. I am prepared to hire the right person as web design, though I can do it – is not a great use of my time. I’d prefer to have someone much more in love with it and proficient to get it done right and with the same kind of passion as I bring to my clients.

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This is what the comment above was in response to… the backstory is that in our industry trades of services and “promises of fame” often act in lieu of monetary compensation. So I felt that comment delegitimized my credibility and assumes I wouldn’t flat out hire someone to do the job. Not the case at all. Se la vie… 

Turns out for the time being anyway I don’t need to hire anyone on. I was able to figure things out and get the coding done DIY style so now all of you can check out the products and services I offer to musicians, via remote coaching, webinars and soon to be released, E-Programs.

That’s right, I’ve got a few introductory exercise workout programs and stretch techniques that I’ve built and can’t wait to release to help people conveniently take care of themselves at home with proper instruction!

For now, online coaching services and free weekly webinars – if you’re interested in checking it out, please head to the MusicFit Collective New Online Store at

—–> musicfit.yondo.com

The first webinar is set to help explain what kind of exercises are best for you in The Musician’s Guide To Working Out and I’d love to see you there.

Until next time,

Namaste sweet!

M

 

Featured image by Joshua Alfaro on Unsplash

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I have spent years trying to decode this phenomenon. What exactly are you paying for when you hire a Personal Trainer? Sure, I might be biased. The past ten years or so I have been a full time trainer, not a hobbyist. A certified, corporate trainer or registered business in my own right. So, as I turn up the Bach Cello Suites (that’s my writing jam!) I’d like to give you my take on the difference in price, value and all of the things in between that go into the thought process before you commit to signing the bottom line.

First off: I’d like to start with the question “why?”

I like to start my presentations the same way as my consultations. I like to know why the heck these people are in front of me. Best case, they give me a rad answer and I can hear, see, smell and flat out feel their desire to achieve. Worst case, that question leaves them dumbfounded. In that case, that question stirs up a cocktail of emotions and further sparks a desire to figure out why.

Either way, the first part of my job is done. We’ve now identified the intrinsic motivation. Now, motivation is a whole different ball game than inspiration. The biggest difference being that one is intrinsic while the latter can be drawn from external situations, individuals or experiences. I stress to anyone that while I can provide inspiration to achieve, the motivation will have to come from within.

So ask yourself, why are you seeking personal training? Are you lacking accountability? Are you in need of a new regimen? Do you want to tell your friends and family that you’re working with a professional now on your lifestyle goals? All of these questions I’ve asked in the past are legitimate. You have your reasons and it’s part of my job as a trainer to answer them.

Second up: What is most important to you?

Are you in it for the right reasons? If your first question is “How much do you charge?” or something along those lines,  as a Premier Personal Trainer, I’m immediately skeptical and here’s why. If you were to roll up to a doctor because you’re feeling ill and dispute the medicine that they prescribe for you, you’d be deemed a lunatic, right? So, because my approach to health and wellness is one that will prolong the time before you need to visit your doctor, if ever again, if you were to bawk at my exercise and nutrition game plan for rationality of cost, how do you think I would react? I’d think you’re crazy too.

The thing is most people don’t understand how valuable their health is until they don’t have it. Unfortunately we go-go-go day in and day out until something breaks, until we fall sick or worse, heaven forbid we end up in the hospital. Ask yourself, how much does your health, happiness and quality of life cost? Would you save money for a night out with the boys, or a Grande frappe every Tuesday in favour of investing those seemingly small expenses into your overall wellbeing? If you say yes to that, you should reconsider your priorities. Call me what you want, but I’ll be hearing from you after you get word about your high cholesterol, blood pressure and severe risk for type two diabetes. That habitual frappe doesn’t sound quite as tasty now, does it? Take care of yourself and prioritize your health.

Lastly, value.

To sum it all up, people will pay you for a product or a service exactly how much the believe you are worth. Now, in my industry I have a strong belief that there are only two types of trainers. The first, “The Most Affordable”. The second, “The Most Incredible”. If you’re anything like me, I’m willing to bet that you’re seeking the most incredible. I know I am. I’m done with average. The slums of mediocrity breed nothing but complacency and the tendency to feel comfortable. That’s a word I’m sick of.

I value myself as much more than the $100/session that my service agreements define me as. For me, you’re not just paying for 60 minutes of incredible exercise, good times and a bar story for Friday. No, no, my friend. You’re paying that money for over ten years of experience in helping countless human beings crush through goals and setbacks they’d been dealing with for decades before they met me. You’re paying for expertise in body mechanics, overcoming psychological roadblocks, accountability to yourself and the life long lessons of a healthy and active mind body and soul that I pass along to everyone I am fortunate enough to work with. That’s value. That’s an investment. Only once you understand that, will you understand why you’re paying what you’re paying for your trainer.

The adage stands true. You get what you pay for.

 

Thanks for reading. Until next time… stay sweet.

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If you’re interested in speaking with me regarding your health and wellness, exercise and nutrition goals, let’s set up a complimentary 15 minute Skype call to see what I can do to help you get past the lifestyle barriers and become the best version of yourself. 

Contact me here to book your call: mike@mikeschwartz.ca

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So I’m sitting in the McDonald’s parking lot just south of the Stampede grounds on McLeod trail right now in SW Calgary. I just had a moment that up until now I had only heard of.

I just wanted a coffee and breakfast.

So I pull through the drive through and make an order, bacon n’ egget McMuffin meal and a large coffee. $6.39

I pull up and tap my debit card…

NSF.

After my 3 seconds of panic, I start digging for change in the car. Nothing.

Then I remember, the savings account on my debit should have $10 left as it’s an old business line of credit I never use and have been paying down.

“Please have enough to pay for the McDonalds.” I thought, already embarrassed as shit.

It cleared. Thank God.

I got my food and now I sit here re-mapping my next steps.

I have a lot to offer the world and have made some irresponsible decisions with money along the way. Nobody’s fault but mine. I’m done with blaming external circumstances for my situation. I have disappointed me.

I’m going to right this.

Stay tuned with a real life example of how to not only survive any type of lifestyle… but how to own it. I’m excited, because when you hit rock bottom, the only way is up.

It starts with the letters.

I have been doing a program known as Procabulary, and at the very least I would strongly encourage you to go check it out www.procabulary.org

My relationship with myself has grown exponentially since starting the program and I can now attribute a much more decisive, accountable self with much stronger communication skills to the core language upgrade.

Something I’d like to pass along for this week’s Sunday Morning Coffee is how our words affect our time management situations. If you’re habitually late, this one’s for you.

 

Consider this.

When you are making plans with friends, talking to your employer about your shift or simply just planning on being somewhere at a certain time, how do you communicate it?

Do you say something to the effect of “I should be there around 5-5:30”?

Or do you say I will be there by 5:30.

It’s saying the same thing essentially, but the message in your head is very different.

 

In a nutshell, what I’m saying is give yourself the best opportunity to remain accountable to yourself and others around you. Make concrete language known as “solid talk” a habitual part of your language. Make wishy-washy or “soft talk” language a thing of the past.

 

Watch what happens to your punctuality.

Thanks for reading.