It has a nice ring to it, doesn’t it?
Looking back on my last full year, November to November – it’s had it’s share of ups and downs. I am in a great place now, but it’s taken some time to come to terms with everything. I still remember that day. The weekend had just passed and I was rolling into North Hill World Health to do what I always do. Just like any other day – I was going to meet with a new gal whom I met in my Friday spin class and helped her out afterwards with some release techniques to help her relieve some nagging knee, back and hip problems she mentioned. I had no idea Michelle was going to be such a prominent figure in my next 12 months and as it stands, much much longer.
-Be forewarned, as you read on I open up to the behind the scenes truth and reality of my life. That’s what I do. I make no excuses for anyone in this post and for those reading it that were a part of the action, if you’re upset – you really only have yourself to blame. You’re in complete control of how you handle your reaction and in saying that, you can quite literally change the outcome of that action. I have absolutely no shame in any other the stuff I’m discussing and while this can act as a sounding board, my intentions are merely to bring reality and my perspective of the situation to light. This is the account as according to me… it’s not a choose your own adventure and some things could be taken pretty harsh. I figure, emotion is the basis of humanity.. so don’t ever hide your true colours. Deal with them.-
As many of you know, I had just been – for lack of better terms, abandoned- by my now former wife – Christy. I am just waiting on documents for finalization of the divorce and I couldn’t describe to you in words how happy I am to be rid of that chapter of my life and the entire network that’s associated with that part of my past 5 years.
It goes like this, that Friday, November 21, 2014. After 5 years together, 3 of them married she decided to pull the plug on our relationship with no warning and no communication whatsoever with the help of her inner circle. Something now in hindsight, I can recognize I was never really a part of. Literally woke up, said I love you and then a bunch of elves or something came and took half of our basement suite away to “another place”, including our effin’ dog! Who does that? To her I guess our relationship was a cool idea in a snow-globe, paradise “Keep up with the Jones'” kind of effed up, dysfunctional way. I was clearly not seeing things the same way as I actually thought I had a great relationship. In any case, the sociopathic, pre-meditated nature of events that lead her to literally walking out on her problems instead of confronting and challenging them and finding another way has helped make this break a lot easier on me. *weakness* Segway….
Enter Michelle. *strength*
The title of my post says it all. No one brings it like this woman. And she’s done it from day one of working with me. I knew she would be a longer termed “client” of mine, because I knew I had the tools that would solve her previous ailments. However, I could have never guessed that she was up to the task of being one of the strongest pillars of my success through what could have otherwise been an absolutely devastating turn of events after my life flipped ass-over-tea-kettle, upside down and inside out. She was a constant reminder of the need to push through any challenges, working hard at everything with a planned direction and goal in mind. An incredible teacher to learn from especially with the timing of my current life events of going through a shocker of a separation. It didn’t stop there. No, no. Michelle probably doesn’t even realize how much our goofy side conversations and her constant interest in my “flavour of the week/month/day” helped me cast off the absolute torture I was enduring through this separation. To put it in perspective, she kept me focused on resetting myself from what I thought was my path to find a new way, allowing laughter, ridiculous playlists full of One Direction and an overall great time to be had every single time she came in for a session. I was so fortunate for her upbeat, sarcastic, but absolutely loving persona to be a part of my life at such a critical time. She quite honestly kept me a float more than a few times and I’m willing to bet she had no idea, because that’s just the way it is. Kinda like Tupac.
Michelle has gone on to support me and actually I probably owe it to her for DSPT in it’s entirety to actually come to fruition. She first mentioned I should get a bootcamp style outdoor thing going so she could come train and have fun again with her girls. That’s how it all began. So not only did she act as my therapist over the past 12 months, she has also helped push me into actualization of building my own passion for health and wellness in others into a very successful operation. This woman is an absolute angel if you believe in the big guy upstairs, a complete beauty with a golden heart, precious soul and integrity within her rivalling a modern day Mother Theresa. This blog wasn’t supposed to be about how awesome she works in every session, or how great she looks and feels and continually gets better performance out of herself even though she curses me up and down most days we’re together. She does that anyways. That’s just by-product. A no brainer. No, it’s about the stuff you don’t hear or see. The silent leadership Michelle keeps that empowers the whole room. The quick smile and hop-to-it-attitude when set rest is over and it’s time to get back to the next round of swings. It’s the charisma and confidence of going up and letting Jessica or Alanna know how great they look, genuinely from the heart as she hadn’t seen them since she got back from vacation or whatever the case may be. It’s crazy to see how much magnetic charm, charisma and overall positive energy one person can maintain through the darkest of situations or most daunting of tasks. She’s really one of the biggest reasons I was able to realize, “Hey, it’s not so bad on this side of the tracks. I might have dodged a bullet.” Even if that was the case, Michelle would be one of the first to jump in front and take the bullet for me. Good god, home girl you know I would do that same for you.
Michelle, you have done so much for my personal growth, my professional career and you have actually helped me set a foundational mindset full of pursuing one’s passion. This is something that I have for 1. now based my business DSPT on, 2. my now-retired skating career message on and 3. my reason or calling in life on. I will continue to employ this attitude in all of my acts of service and relationships moving forward and I cannot thank you enough for being there with me and keeping me grounded. You deserve the world for you and your beautiful family and I’m so glad I can be a part of it. You’re truly the definition of champion, rockstar and most importantly friend. I am so excited for our new challenge of getting you to a new level with your sport, Triathlon. The unmarked territory and exciting nerves are going to be the fuel that gets you there. I’m just the facilitator, the medium. And even though you may not think you’re the rockstar at the start, you’ve made the decision to start to become that rockstar. Take a lesson here, folks. Michelle, you’re an inspiration.
Please, if you would like to be a part of my success stories, reach out to me through the contact form below and find out how to train and motivate and inspire others with the heart of someone like Michelle. If you’re in the Calgary area I would gladly set up a brief chit-chat about your health and wellness goals and see if we can team up to start your path to becoming a rockstar. You truly are limited only by your own reality, I encourage you to push your standards and strive for success! I will help you start that journey and realize your health and wellness goals.