I was bumped up on the therapy wait list. I head in Friday morning instead of two weeks from now, and that’s exciting. I embrace talking about my experience. It helps me fit things in and take things out.

I (re) learned a lot last night:

Great friends are always thinking about you and will always have your back.

I had to reschedule my session last night with my two best pals. They sent me this in lieu:

They are both doing so well and even when their coach isn’t there, they still push it. Champions are doing the work when no one is watching. These two are champs. Thanks guys.

Music is powerful.

I don’t know where to start.

Jess and Robb, thank you. Music and Motion was a compete hit tonight and you guys were great. I can’t wait to get some pictures up from the House. For now –

@jessandrobbmusic

These two beauties came with me to the Ronald McDonald House and played an awesome set of music for the kids and their parents while the kids basically used me as a jungle gym. It was awesome. The families loved it, mom and dad got to relax, and that’s why I do this.

Then the show, K.Flay and Sir Sly both just killed it. The amazing thing about both of these artists is the poetic complexities. I’d strongly encourage you to take a listen to the hardships and the battles and the adversity in the art.

This is where the title comes from today. Borrowed and paraphrased K.Flay’s sign off before the last song she performed…”Remember, right now isn’t forever.”

That stuck.

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And leads me to wonder if the human condition has room to be fully complete…? or if the lifestyle choices and the drug use and addition and anxiety all lends itself to some higher form of the craft. Like seriously, what would we sing about? How would we relate to our audience if the new rock star lifestyle was about gluten free bread, hemp seeds and kombucha. Like how hard of a life is that?

Food for thought…

Children have so much to teach us, but we adults have a hard time with humility.

How come my nephew can squat, jump, balance and do bear crawls but my 20 something clients can’t?

Just an example…

Last night I was a human jungle gym for 6 kids 5-9 years old and feed a straight diet of sugar. And we got them all under control and relaxed. They respond well when you ask them to perform a task. They do not respond well when you tell them what not to do…

Thanks Mark England.

Child whisperer. That’s my alias.

Again, we await RMH photos for evidence.

We busy ourselves with what’s important. We prioritize our needs.

Or at least we should. Don’t take it personally, but do take it as a sign that the effort isn’t mutual and there’s a disconnect if you feel that you’re reaching and grabbing and the reciprocation is just not there.

Carry on.

Thank you for checking this out. Again, moral of the story is whatever you’re going through, highs and lows, it’s temporary. Nothing is a forever and you will be better off because of all the experiences you go through. Learn to embrace it and the journey is wicked fun.

Thanks for listening!

Til next time,

Stay sweet!

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As I stand here, warming up in the bomby -2.5C Calgarian November morning, I look around to see nothing but open park, glorious cityscape and a few tourists over the stairs at Crescent Heights. The same stairs that the team and I meet every Sunday, at 11:07.

Not this Sunday though. I was the lone wolf.

I heard lots of inquiries, lots of interest, some were unfortunately sick and others had previous engagements and that’s all fine. I’m okay if you don’t show up. I have zero influence on what people prioritize until they see what health and wellness will do for them.

Ironic because most of the excuses I hear revolve around “I’m tired, I’m gonna sleep in, I’ve been working nights, I’m getting sick, I have no time for that…” which all stem from the root of why you should be joining me every Sunday at 11:07!

I don’t do this because I like it all the time. I do it because I know the alternative of depression, anxiety, poor conditioning, sickness, lethargy, zero motivation, ambition and the feeling of insecurity far outweighs the shitty 35:07 of a little hard breathing, muscle soreness and pounding heart. Yeah. I show up.

I’d encourage you to do the same the next time you say you will. Physically and mentally. At the end of the day, you’re only letting yourself down.

I did my reps.

Attention all drummers!

Try this one out before your next rehearsal and unglue your shitty forearms.

Here’s what to do.

1. Grab a LAX ball, or a tennis ball to start cause this can get NASTY.

2. Hang you wrist off of a counter or over your snare.

3. Roll the ball over your forearm, up close to the elbow.

4. Find the spot that sings like Shakira and hold it!

5. Make a fist. Try not to cry. 👶

6. Relax, open your fist and repeat all the way down closer to the wrist.

HIYA! Take that, wrist pain.

I’ve got some more books to help you on the road with exercise and nutrition if you’re the career-minded musician. First three to comment below and tag their band get a FREE e-copy. 🤘

🎶 by The Heist – “Let it Go”

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‘Til next time, stay sweet.

So I guess I have a bit of a series going on here about booze and its (possibly negative) effects on lifestyle. This week I have heard one recurring statement from numerous people close to me in my life. “I’m just going to relax with [insert name and quantity of choice alcohol] and stay in tonight/watch TV/forget about the day. But how much of that statement is truth? I am going to put forth a question to all of you readers out there tonight. What is the deal with our societal acceptance that alcohol will help us to relax?

Fact: Alcohol has both stimulant and sedative properties. However, it can be argued that the aggression, increased heart rate, motor slowing and cognitive impairment are all tied to the stimulant side of things¹. So if the science shows us that the alcohol is stimulating, why do we still “relax with a bottle of wine?” A million people can’t all be wrong, right?There must be some truth to this and I’m going to argue that the sedative effects of alcohol are a more of a subjective finding, in that – we have “feelings” and “emotions” tied to our use of booze. Before all you haters jump me in the alley for saying you’re crazy for thinking that booze is making you relax, I am certainly not taking away from the legitimacy of subjective perspectives. Hell, as some of you may recall, I’m in the middle of conducting a research project that is actually studying the subjective worth of exercise. (Check that out here!)

I do see the value in how our thoughts shape our actions in the simple fact that what we think can become our reality.. however, we also need to recognize that the science doesn’t lie. That stuff isn’t subjective. It’s a cold hard fact that alcohols stimulant properties will actually increase your heart rate and causes vasoconstriction, the narrowing of blood vessels. So no, you’re not relaxing because you are physically putting your body under stress. Stress is something that will keep you up and not let you sleep. or relax. End of story.

But alas, society will continue to unwind with booze. Maybe the mind is more powerful than we let ourselves believe..? Until the next episode… have a cup of herbal tea to relax. That shit is science. Make it hibiscus and grape so you get the wine feel… you know, cause it’s the grapes that are good for your heart anyways. 😉

 

¹http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21560041

It has a nice ring to it, doesn’t it?

Looking back on my last full year, November to November – it’s had it’s share of ups and downs. I am in a great place now, but it’s taken some time to come to terms with everything. I still remember that day. The weekend had just passed and I was rolling into North Hill World Health to do what I always do. Just like any other day – I was going to meet with a new gal whom I met in my Friday spin class and helped her out afterwards with some release techniques to help her relieve some nagging knee, back and hip problems she mentioned. I had no idea Michelle was going to be such a prominent figure in my next 12 months and as it stands, much much longer.

-Be forewarned, as you read on I open up to the behind the scenes truth and reality of my life. That’s what I do. I make no excuses for anyone in this post and for those reading it that were a part of the action, if you’re upset – you really only have yourself to blame. You’re in complete control of how you handle your reaction and in saying that, you can quite literally change the outcome of that action. I have absolutely no shame in any other the stuff I’m discussing and while this can act as a sounding board, my intentions are merely to bring reality and my perspective of the situation to light. This is the account as according to me… it’s not a choose your own adventure and some things could be taken pretty harsh. I figure, emotion is the basis of humanity.. so don’t ever hide your true colours. Deal with them.-

As many of you know, I had just been – for lack of better terms, abandoned- by my now former wife – Christy. I am  just waiting on documents for finalization of the divorce and I couldn’t describe to you in words how happy I am to be rid of that chapter of my life and the entire network that’s associated with that part of my past 5 years.

It goes like this, that Friday, November 21, 2014. After 5 years together, 3 of them married she decided to pull the plug on our relationship with no warning and no communication whatsoever with the help of her inner circle. Something now in hindsight, I can recognize I was never really a part of. Literally woke up, said I love you and then a bunch of elves or something came and took half of our basement suite away to “another place”, including our effin’ dog! Who does that? To her I guess our relationship was a cool idea in a snow-globe, paradise “Keep up with the Jones'” kind of effed up, dysfunctional way. I was clearly not seeing things the same way as I actually thought I had a great relationship. In any case, the sociopathic, pre-meditated nature of events that lead her to literally walking out on her problems instead of confronting and challenging them and finding another way has helped make this break a lot easier on me. *weakness* Segway….

Enter Michelle. *strength*

The title of my post says it all. No one brings it like this woman. And she’s done it from day one of working with me. I knew she would be a longer termed “client” of mine, because I knew I had the tools that would solve her previous ailments. However, I could have never guessed that she was up to the task of being one of the strongest pillars of my success through what could have otherwise been an absolutely devastating turn of events after my life flipped ass-over-tea-kettle, upside down and inside out. She was a constant reminder of the need to push through any challenges, working hard at everything with a planned direction and goal in mind. An incredible teacher to learn from especially with the timing of my current life events of going through a shocker of a separation. It didn’t stop there. No, no. Michelle probably doesn’t even realize how much our goofy side conversations and her constant interest in my “flavour of the week/month/day” helped me cast off the absolute torture I was enduring through this separation. To put it in perspective, she kept me focused on resetting myself from what I thought was my path to find a new way, allowing laughter, ridiculous playlists full of One Direction and an overall great time to be had every single time she came in for a session. I was so fortunate for her upbeat, sarcastic, but absolutely loving persona to be a part of my life at such a critical time. She quite honestly kept me a float more than a few times and I’m willing to bet she had no idea, because that’s just the way it is. Kinda like Tupac.

Michelle has gone on to support me and actually I probably owe it to her for DSPT in it’s entirety to actually come to fruition. She first mentioned I should get a bootcamp style outdoor thing going so she could come train and have fun again with her girls. That’s how it all began. So not only did she act as my therapist over the past 12 months, she has also helped push me into actualization of building my own passion for health and wellness in others into a very successful operation. This woman is an absolute angel if you believe in the big guy upstairs, a complete beauty with a golden heart, precious soul and integrity within her rivalling a modern day Mother Theresa. This blog wasn’t supposed to be about how awesome she works in every session, or how great she looks and feels and continually gets better performance out of herself even though she curses me up and down most days we’re together. She does that anyways. That’s just by-product. A no brainer. No, it’s about the stuff you don’t hear or see. The silent leadership Michelle keeps that empowers the whole room. The quick smile and hop-to-it-attitude when set rest is over and it’s time to get back to the next round of swings. It’s the charisma and confidence of going up and letting Jessica or Alanna know how great they look, genuinely from the heart as she hadn’t seen them since she got back from vacation or whatever the case may be. It’s crazy to see how much magnetic charm, charisma and overall positive energy one person can maintain through the darkest of situations or most daunting of tasks. She’s really one of the biggest reasons I was able to realize, “Hey, it’s not so bad on this side of the tracks. I might have dodged a bullet.” Even if that was the case, Michelle would be one of the first to jump in front and take the bullet for me. Good god, home girl  you know I would do that same for you.

Michelle, you have done so much for my personal growth, my professional career and you have actually helped me set a foundational mindset full of pursuing one’s passion. This is something that I have for 1. now based my business DSPT on, 2. my now-retired skating career message on and 3. my reason or calling in life on. I will continue to employ this attitude in all of my acts of service and relationships moving forward and I cannot thank you enough for being there with me and keeping me grounded. You deserve the world for you and your beautiful family and I’m so glad I can be a part of it. You’re truly the definition of champion, rockstar and most importantly friend. I am so excited for our new challenge of getting you to a new level with your sport, Triathlon. The unmarked territory and exciting nerves are going to be the fuel that gets you there. I’m just the facilitator, the medium. And even though you may not think you’re the rockstar at the start, you’ve made the decision to start to become that rockstar. Take a lesson here, folks. Michelle, you’re an inspiration.

Please, if you would like to be a part of my success stories, reach out to me through the contact form below and find out how to train and motivate and inspire others with the heart of someone like Michelle. If you’re in the Calgary area I would gladly set up a brief chit-chat about your health and wellness goals and see if we can team up to start your path to becoming a rockstar. You truly are limited only by your own reality, I encourage you to push your standards and strive for success! I will help you start that journey and realize your health and wellness goals.

1. Learn from everything.

2. “Failure” in it’s most conventional terms can be turned around into a big victory if you just spare the pity party and own it.

3. “It could have been a lot worse” is always back of mind, because it’s true today.

4. Ice is slippery.

5. Seconds count for a lot.

6. Focus and preparation should not be taken lightly.

7. Training with the likes of Alexandra, Alec and Gilmore still puts me in #fangirl mode.

8. Run The Jewels – “Close Your Eyes” is my warmup jam. And likely will be for a long time.

9. Not even a spill can ruin my appetite for a good bratwurst with honey mustard and some ‘kraut.

10. My mom is the best seamstress. She’ll make my suit even faster after she patches it. And I know she’s one of the only people that reads this. Hi mom!

11. LuluLemon is the bomb. Great customer service (they’re shipping me a new pair of their newest boxers since mine stopped my blade from going through my leg).

12. Learn from everything.

I really believe you need to lose.

I learned a lot from today. I had every intention to hit two personal bests today. To say I came up short is a gross understatement. But upon reflection, I’m glad it happened.

I had my first career crash in my first race, a 500m I was set on pace to skate just shy of :46 even (which would have been 3 seconds faster than my previous best 500m). I don’t know exactly what happened. I had a good clean start, but was a little rattled after the starter had to coach me into my start. Nerves got me doing into the back straight, and when I went into my final corner I felt like I was flying. It was great. I lost focus and in a split second ended up on my left side, flying towards the final corner wall. 110m away from my best 500m time, for sure. This in every sense of the word was my greatest skating career failure to date. But who’s up for conventional these days?

I stayed there, motionless for a bit. I was certain my left skate blade was in my hamstring. My right blade was definitely 4″ in the crash wall. After I got up, realized my LuluLemons and race suit stopped the blade from slicing my femoral artery, I had two choices. Sit out the 1000m race later and mope, or dust myself off, forget about it and go out to PR my 1000m. I chose the latter. Well, almost.

I didn’t quite make my Personal Best, and I’m not going to sit around making excuses. I basically came in unprepared for today and took a bail in my first race and had a poor outing on my second. Takeaway this – in times of adversity own the podium, admit your mistakes and learn from them. I don’t believe you can taste success until you know what failure feels like. I don’t want to be here again.