… of the Towers and Trees,

They hit up Sneaky Dee’s,

Now they wait in the YYC.

Connecting to the coast,

To the west they love the most,

The Westjet girl was s’posed,

To bring my coffee: darkest roast

Davey, Davey, Davey, can’t you see

Sometimes your D’s just hypnotize me.

Alright… a little context now, right?

Little did I know when I booked the earliest flight home to Calgary, I’d have the opportunity to sit with a couple of new best buds of Towers and Trees, the Dave’s. AKA: Double Dee’s.

I bought the dude that had the aisle seat with these two guys off with a copy of my book. (Turns out his name is Wes, and he loved the book. Works with heavy equipment and is always sore. Loves music. Wanted it autographed, so of course I was pumped to hear that. )

Point being, do well. It’s important to do good, but it’s more important to do well.

Be kind to everyone you interact with. I’m flying back in to TO in a couple weeks because of that exact mentality. Good hangs always win.

More to come in the next few days… just stay tuned. And try to keep up, it’s insane in my life these days. Good kinda insane.

Catch y’all soon!

Xo

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Wow, Toronto. We have a couple more days together before it’s back home to Calgary. Canadian Music Week has been amazing, our panel went great, I met so many artists and industry express their gratitude for the work I am doing with MusicFit Collective, artists’ health and wellness and everything in between and overall I have just really enjoyed all the new, lifelong relationships I have made.

Now, this week is a bit ironic in a sense. That’s right, I was invited out here to talk about the affect on creativity and performance from a physical and mental wellness standpoint. However, the conference itself isn’t set up to give attendees the ability to put into practice some of the insight I shared.

These 5 days are intense. Late nights catching bands, earlier mornings to attend conferences. Showing up for bed at 3am isn’t conducive to a 8am wake up, but alas – we hustle through it. I’m a part of it to. I’m no different. Right there with ’em all in the thick of it.

I do emphasize the importance of thinking progress over perfection. Choose the best route for you in the given situation, don’t shame yourself for what is the perfect choice as oftentimes it is unrealistic. If it’s temporary and you recognize that, take ease in knowing that you are accountable to your choices and clean the slate when given the chance.

We often get dealt an unfavourable hand, it’s all in how you choose to play the game.

1% every day

See you next time, stay sweet!

Xo

Hey folks, it’s been a minute. I know. Lots has gone on out here in Toronto, as I hear up for my panel on Thursday. So much excite. So much still to get done.

This city is beautiful. There’s something to be said about fitting in vs. belonging. One of my favourites, Simon Sinek dug up an article written by one David Mead that speaks to that eloquently right here: Fitting in vs. Belonging

I have had a bit of a time trying to stay mindful and in full practice of my habits and behaviours, but wowza! It’s tough in the road. I want to be better at just reading my lessons and staying in touch with my athletes, but it’s rather difficult living out of a suitcase. Pleasant reminder of why I’m doing what I’m doing in the first place. I can only imagine the difficulty for an artist who’s not trained in this stuff.

I ran a 10km with my new friend and fellow panelist, Andre. That was certainly a bright point as far as fitness on the road went. Just under an hour too. There’s been a silly amount of walking (north of 10km every day…) but I just started running with Dre at his condo and once we started talking…

Goes to show the value of social support. And that’s where I’ll leave it today. If you’re immersed in an environment that doesn’t fully support your behaviour, your goals, your drive… the likelihood of you reaching your goals significantly falls. Keep that in mind when you receive a response that isn’t what you’d like from your tribe. It may be time to expand that tribe.

Cheers from TO,

XO

Describe a situation that you’ve felt you’ve been wronged.

Describe in as much detail as you can why you’ve been wronged. Describe that person.

Did you describe them with any positive words?

How did the situation make you feel? Who was involved? How did it radically change you values? Your opinions of others? Your generalized opinion of the world? How did you have to change your life?

Define the word “forgiveness” without using a dictionary.

Can you forgive whoever did you wrong in the situation? Even if you choose not to forgive right now, what good could come of forgiving that person?

Put yourself in the place of the person that did you wrong. How could their childhood played a role in the incident? How do you think they felt when they did you wrong?

How does it feel to forgive the wrong-doer? And in what ways have you grown?

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It translate so beautifully,

If you slow down and stare,

No stops. Continue…

Life’s there to share.

 

We’ll make sure you’re covered,

For your time and expense,

She said so; confirming,

I won’t miss the rent.

Just play.

 

Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash

The relationship we have with our lifestyle is a learned skill. That means it can be changed. In order to foster and develop a healthy environment, one of the first things we must do is provide accessible education. By empowering individuals to make lifestyle choices for themselves, we will create a culture people will gravitate towards. That’s super rad.

Xo

M

So this past week off of social media (mostly, I’ve still kept twitter on, it’s less distracting for me) has been refreshing. Hard to say if I was addicted or not, but it’s been freeing to be off of the need to capture a picture and seek external gratification from the mightiest of followings on Instagram or hear the latest rant about how much someone hates Trump or Trudeau or the shitty human that cut in line of the unfortunate soul now venting about it on my Facebook news feed. Yeah. I can’t say I miss all that shit. I could spend hours on that useless road.

I used to justify my involvement with social media as a need for business. In order to grow, we need to have a consistent brand, a consistent message and exciting social media  marketing…

Uhh. I call bullshit. On myself. Ha!

I mean, I’m sure it helps some people. “Social media strategy”. However, since my time away, I’ve reflected on this incredible irony.

So many self-proclaimed social media influencers pride themselves on authenticity and an honest message delivered with sheer passion. However, how does one maintain a genuine message if it’s part of a greater sales script?

I’m not advocating the typical artists’ “I create when I’m inspired” bullshit, because that’s just permitting failure, but I certainly see another side of what it means to be authentic.

I’ll still create only when I’m inspired. It’s just little different than most. To paraphrase a line in “The War of Art”

The creative only creates when he/she is inspired. That just so happens to be every day, at 7:00am, without fail. –

But my message will no longer be riddled with ways to get the next best thing. Way to train with me. And all of that. I mean, sure it’s cool to let people know you’re a good trainer, author, drummer or coach or whatever you are but I know that people start to tune it out after awhile. It’s gotta be super annoying. If you want to test this theory, video your next presentation, front to back and watch it over for a review night. Get the popcorn out because you’re in for a show.

I thought “Why the eff do people listen to me?”

Well, me… they stopped.

I’ve had a horrible time turning it off in my last three years of freelancing. I’ve been stuck in my self-fulfilling entrepreneurial-mindset. “It” being the sales game. It’s cost me over the years. Most notably it’s cost me relationships, trust and my own sanity. Shit, I had two people pay attention to my birthday this year. Two people. For a guy that prides himself as the life of the party…. that’s garbage. Clearly, I’m the only one at that party. But it was a nice awakening. My presence is clearly not adding to most of my friends lives. And I don’t like that. I’m prepared to make some changes to turn that around.

Being off of social media this past week has taught me that the world continues to spin and business definitely doesn’t need social media in order to thrive. I’ve actually done better with my business by removing myself. This is simply because I haven’t wasted hours upon hours online, scrolling through the feed, feeding into the scroll…I’m way more productive in areas of live that actually generate a paycheque. Real conversations with real people, taking care of myself, focusing on happiness and removing myself from situations that don’t help me grow in some way.

So, if I do return to social media, it will be under very different terms. And I’m actually still undecided about if I really want to return. All that bullshit I used to tell myself about Instagram and Facebook being huge movers for business is really silly, in hindsight. People know what I do. And if they don’t, and they want to, they’ll find me.

I do think Instagram and Facebook can highlight certain points about my business and showcase my personality, creativity and knowledge. But, I’m not going to push that shit anymore.

People know what I do. I don’t have to tell them.

If you feel that your message is falling on deaf ears, I’d strongly encourage you to stop talking and start listening.

Talk soon,

xo

I am trying to hear you, but your actions are deafening