Off with his shoes
Soul out to dry – soles left to blister Jogging the hot Kehei sands
Never before has the South Pacific felt so calm and refreshing.
What was once a fear, now a ultimate reward for accomplishment of his late morning task.
Forty-five earned minutes before that last dip of 400 meters
And the salty reminder sweeps him further….
A little more.
Laid out to all openness, floating and crashing.
Gently pushed back to do it all over again.
Staying waist deep will only keep him waist deep and less.
Calm and refreshed, he wades out further to the sound of the crashing waves and the ever so subtle pull of the tide – calling him.
Bringing him up and out to sea. Away from comfort into another place.
A place to where he one day will find comfort.
And gently he is again pushed back to do it all again.
Hit a beach for this one, folks.
Thank you Coach Kits!
2′ skater jog
1′ dry skate
2′ skater jog
1′ grapevine to single leg squat
1′ “wang” low walk
30″/(30″) x 2 sprint/(walk)
1′ side push right
1′ side push left
400m easy swim
Here’s a mismatch “mashup” if you will on a couple chapters of what I read yesterday and today then applied. Digest.
To say that we as humans pursue what we don’t have is an understatement of gross proportions.
FACT- you’d stop reading this if your hair caught on fire right now.
Why? Well, because the priority would be survival. Nothing would be more important than that right now.
Once survival is maintained, what’s next? Covey argues psychological well being. In that acceptance, recognition and the like take a close second place to merely physical survival! Incredible how much the people around you and the conversation and relationships can sway your attitude.
I’m living proof today.
But I bring it back to the barren wasteland that is an unfulfilled need. Our psyche demands that we pursue what we don’t have incredibly hard. And once we have it – we tend to chill a bit. Probably explains some folks and their desire to work out an insane amount for the upcoming vacation. But then what? Typically, they’re known in my profession as “start-stoppers”.
What I took from today and in closing; pump people up! Have meaningful conversation, try to understand folks and what their perspective is and be considerate. Accept others’ views. Embrace change and be open to the other side. Value difference. That difference is what will cause synergy in your relationships. Work. Personal. Doesn’t matter. And for crying out loud admit when you’re at fault. When you screw up. Just do it. It shows empathy, integrity and builds trust. If you don’t, you stand to risk breaking down those pillars that are so crucial for meaningful relationships.
Above all, continue to seek challenge. Set goals high so you don’t succumb to complacency of fulfillment. Set them high and set them often.
This is a picture of paradise’s otherside. Lots of meaning to contemplate. Barren wasteland of a dormant volcano. Dormant, not dead. The other side of a lush, invigorating jungle island. The empty openness characterized by fulfilled needs. Chaos. Take it as the world you see fit.
I am going to make a commitment to listening to understand. I feel as though I can be more consistent in practice. Just as I strive to practice perfect technical ability for skating, communication should have as much if not more dedicated rehearsal time as it is something we constantly do. Especially since my personal goals won’t matter at all if the relationships with my wife Christy, friends, family and colleagues are emotionally depleted.
Reading, writing, speaking and the most underrated – listening.
I’m currently reading a lot on empathy and communication so I will put into practice what I am learning. Just in case you notice a shift in the way our communication goes. Hopefully it’s not too much of a shift, but please advise if you notice!
This is what I will focus on:
Consideration – seek first to understand
Courage – then be understood
Next time you find yourself in an opportunity to listen in a close relationship, instead of just repeating back words or rephrasing… Try to utilize both left and right brain by identifying the issue and the feelings the person is communicating and rephrasing both back. (Of course, this may seem strange to both parties, so as Dr. Covey recommends, clear with the person your intentions to maintain a good sense of character, integrity and your intentions)
Apply this however you like:
60% body language
30% sounds made
Could words just get in the way of the message?
I maintain a principle while travelling. I like taking vacations as an opportunity to ground myself in self healing, continued education and growth both professionally and personally. This trip includes some professional development in my advanced sports nutrition book, and my self growth includes a book I’ve revisited many times in the past few years. Basically, when I decided the fitness industry, personal training and the management of people was the career track for me. That book is the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey.
In reading Covey en route to Maui, I have already taken away countless strategies that I can apply in all aspects of my life. I would like to share some of these strategies in my writings over the next few days. I originally wanted to play scrabble on my ipad, but it apparently wasn’t uploaded from the cloud successfully in YVR. Dang. Guess I just gotta get learned and smart or something. So here goes folks, this is what I took away from a section regarding Private Victories and the art of successful delegation. Do enjoy, and feel free to discuss!
Gofer vs. Stewardship Delegation
Covey writes that we have two basic styles of delegation. Gofer – designate a team member a task, get them to report back when it’s done. Super common among the workplace. But fails to engage the delegated party. From what I got from this, it’s argued that to truly get buy in from your team, you need to find a way, a powerful way, to intrinsically involve those that are part of your cause. You should infect them with a reason to invest in the end result.
That’s another point in itself. Results.
It’s argued that there’s not enough attention towards results, and instead full focus is on the methods on how to do, what to do, what not to do and all the rules in getting there. See the dilemma?
How I understand it is that people do well when empowered. Trust is the highest form of respect. Once you gain respect as a leader you have buy in from your following. Task delegation setup with multiple rules on how to achieve the desired result stems away from the whole point of getting your team behind you, in my opinion. Covey supports this argument fully, citing it’s more beneficial long term to invest time in coaching the delegated task before giving full creative control away to ensure desired results. This allows the delegated party a sense of ownership, a sense of pride and more buy in for the team as a whole. Undoubtedly, more of your following will buy in to this process and your single action effort multiplied productivity tenfold. Pretty effective and efficient, even though it will take more of a time investment in the early stages. Short term inconvenience for long term gains.
That brings me to the final point I would like to make on this section. Efficiency vs. effectiveness. The argument is based around a central theme of scheduling in your priorities instead of prioritizing your schedules activities. I totally agree. You need to know what is important to your whole grand scheme before you can go ahead and decide what you are going to do first, right? That’s efficient. The German blood in me loves this.
I’ve definitely been in this position before – ever had a one on one meeting with a manager or an employee that ran overtime? Maybe you were going out for a coffee with a friend you hadn’t seen for a long time. Strangely enough you were late for whatever you may have scheduled after the HOUR you might have allotted for said friend?
People that operate off of principle cannot work with efficiency when it comes to other individuals. There are emotions. There can be unforeseen circumstances that delay the process. There may be variables that cannot be predicted when dealing with people. When dealing with people, it’s best to utilize effectiveness over efficiency, because we are not objects.
Next time you want to have a good meaningful experience with someone, clear you schedule. Both literally and as far as your expectations go for the outcome. That’s going to be more effective, maybe not efficient. But you can look back and know that that conversation, that meeting or that opportunity to grow was most effective for both sides.
Cool, eh? Just my thoughts. Feel free to discuss.
So this is pops’ weekend, and unfortunately I’m away on vacation (one of 3 to the islands in as many years, as my father will not let my wife and I forget…). But, my reflection on today applies to all in a leadership position. Fathers now and soon to be fathers should pay attention. And I have a lot of both of the target audiences in my immediate circle, so listen up!
I took a lot from my dad, including his name, Robert. But what I managed to take from him above all was how to set yourself apart as an individual and how to truly lead by “making it happen” rather than “waiting for it to happen”.
That saying stuck with me, clearly. While in the context it was directed to hockey, in being where the play will be not where it is or was – I think it holds a pretty strong case for a win-win mentality in life.
Competitive team sports naturally give the once winner, one loser type of setup. A win-lose outcome by nature. Great for competition. Poor for results where true cooperation drives success. Applicable to me, I like to think win-win – what’s good for me will also benefit you. Not cost you. It does me no good to train like an animal, gain a following, perhaps find some sort of success across the finish line and poo poo the sport, the training and the man hours that the other athletes I compete against have put in. Many of which have doubled, tripled or exponentially multiplied the rehearsal hours as I have to date. It’s simply not a good system to measure with.
I’d prefer to look at my training and accomplishment from a personal view. This is something I feel is a journey and that in itself is a win. I am doing. The ultimate win will be skating for Canada in 2018, but I think of that as an opportunity towards ultimate success instead of seeing it as an obstacle. I’m not going to be defeated on the chance that all things don’t work out. I’m not afraid of failing that.
However, instead if seeing a me vs. them – my sport, my competition etc. I see them as a cooperative front to bring awareness to sport, Canadians, folks that have drive to success, any sort of limitations and anyone that can connect with the emotional part of the story. Can you imagine if we based our relationships on win-lose? I think Christy and I would both be losing if that’s how we worked.
So why’s it so acceptable in sport? Is it always the best mindset? I’d argue certainly not in a team atmosphere, which is what I’d like to cultivate with my sport of long track speed skating.
Originally I wanted to segregate and really define who this story was for, because in school we are taught to isolate our audience. Just like in sport we are taught that there’s a winner and a loser. Beating = best. I am here to challenge that theory and think about making things happen.
Thank you, dad. You may have helped me curb a thought that’s been ingrained in our youth – it’s actually not always about the scoreboard.
It’s incredible how some things just happen. The timing of events in our lives, the words that just roll off your tongue. Perhaps they don’t.
I believe some of the most powerful lessons can be learned by just hearing what others have to say. The creative process of learning from experience cannot happen if you refuse to expose yourself to outside experience. How we gain these experiences can be very intimate, very personal. But I think we can all do better in learning from each other.
You never know how what you don’t say could do for someone.
You might save a life.