Learn to shut shit down. Just because Bob wasted his weekend and ran short on meeting the deadline for the teams proposal does not mean you have to stay late or come in early to accommodate his flounder.
How many of us have been there before?
The challenge with more and more decent human beings is not taking on other people’s shit before taking care of ourselves. I’ve done that. I’ve had clients screw up their schedule and then catch myself saying it’s cool and I’ll come in on their convenience the following day.
But I’m here to tell you flat out that when you play the long game, that doesn’t work out. You will not be successful when you put everyone else first before you. So effin’ stop already.
Here are 3 Pro Tips To Get More of What You Want
- Become a “yes” man or woman – Saying no, and nah, and all these negative things not only hurts your shots at getting asked things, but it’s also super emotionally draining. Learn to say “yes” to everything. It’s just a conditional “yes”. (i.e.. Boss asks you to stay late to finish up a project.. rather than saying no because eff that noise you have plans and like hell you’re going to be caught dead staying working a minute later.. use it as ammo; “Yes, but I’ll have to take Monday morning off next week…”) This way you stay positive by not using conflict language (see Procabulary.org for more on that), you please your boss and you usually get something rad out of it. It’s negotiation skills 101 and you should learn those stat.
- The art of saying “Not right now…” (i.e.: Friend has a project you told them you would edit before submitting it to work, but they ask you to edit it Sunday night when you have family plans insisting it’s due in the morning. You say, not right now because you’re with family and had previous engagements and you specifically asked for it by Saturday…it’s not your problem they couldn’t get the punctuality down… “Not right now” eases the pressure off of you and allows them to choose the next action. Wait until you can actually help ( yes that means take care of your shit first) or let them have a go at it themselves.
- Surround yourself with awesome. You’re the product of the 5 people you’re around the most. If you’re the brightest bulb in the room, find a new room.
Alright, short and sweet. That takes care of things again. I’m going to leave you all with a quick survey that I’m conducting for the music industry and if things like this success coaching kind of stuff (blogs, videos and the like – education) in the areas of health and wellness typically forgotten about the music industry are actually in demand. So if you happen to play music, or know someone who does, please share this link with them https://goo.gl/forms/8DIJO1ozziah04y82
I am collecting data for my new online platform that will reach musicians worldwide and give them full access to tons of world-class information and education from experts in the health and wellness industry across the world. I just need to know what kinda things I should be gathering and what kind of services to offer for the collective.
Your feedback is greatly appreciated,
Until next time,