The perfect cup starts out the same for everyone. Empty. It’s then up to you to choose how you fill it, if you choose to fill it at all. I choose to fill mine with a cocktail of sorts: Love, laughter, support, confidence, and conversation.
Tonight was one of the best nights of my life, let alone one of the best Christmas Eves ever. Tonight I got to feed and comfort my wee niece, Brielle, and laughed, high-fived, played hockey, smiled and made goofy faces with my 2 year old kid nephew “Zaneroo”. I smiled harder more tonight than I think I have ever done in my life. I got to help my mom with dinner and then after gifts, (we are German … it’s tradition to open gifts on Christmas Eve) I was able to help to set up my dads work station ergonomically so his posture can start to be addressed. All of this solidified two things: one – I want to be a father for sure. Two – I want to be there for my kids every step of the way.
Love, laughter & support
What I mean by being here for ’em comes back to the cup. I’m don’t have a lot of money, but I’m certainly not poor by any means. When you get to play hockey with your nephew while he runs around like a wild man and you can see the love for life in his eyes and then you get to hold his baby sister and she just stares at you with unbelievable trust and love… you just forget about all of your problems, you know? You never get to experience that kinda shit again. It’s nice to be a part of it. If not for you, for them.
So I guess the lesson here is that. Set your shit aside, and understand that you are completely able to overcome all obstacles in your way of achieving happiness. Yes, some have more obstacles than others, and I won’t deny that. But it all comes down to choice.
I wouldn’t miss these years and these moments with family for the world. You only get Christmas Eve once a year, and you only get so many years before it’s all gone anyways. Sure, new traditions can work too.. I’m all for forward thinking, but I remember how great it was to look at both my father and my mother and tell them “Santa got my list!!” It was just complete with everyone there, you know?
I am the proudest uncle ever tonight. I really connected with both my niece and my nephew. I am so glad I decided to leave work at home, drive out to the farm, and spend quality time with amazing little humans and part of my family.
When it comes to family, there’s no such things as being “too motivating”, laughing too much, or having “me time”. I seriously can’t wait to have a family of my own and be able to take in all the little things. I want to be a part of their tender years.
I fill my cup to the brim! What are you going to do? What’s your perfect cup?