You can’t talk your way out of things you behave yourself into.
– Stephen Covey
Whether you’re a world class athlete aiming for the Olympics in 2018, a single mother of two trying to get by or a career professional looking to take the next rung on the ladder of success – the way we pattern behaviour influences how we control ourselves.
I will make example from my personal life, the athlete inside me.
We could all likely agree that performance is based on consistency. Right? Being a professional could be summed up not only by producing top results, but consistently producing top results. In order to do that, the professional athlete must pattern consistent behaviours that compliment the outcome of top level performance.
I wouldn’t be very good if I trained only when the sun was out or if my favourite football team (Go Deutschland!) wasn’t playing a game that afternoon. I need to overcome outside influence and behave in a manner that will drive success. This includes but is not limited to training consistently in my in-season and off-season sessions, getting a proper nights rest to aid recovery, following a proper nutrition program to help fuel my body and maintaining a balanced psychological and social life to ensure I’m still just human.
So where do we find the ability to apply change to behaviours to affect desired outcomes? Well, that starts with you. And wow, you can be the catalyst for change in others too.
If as a Personal Trainer or Strength Coach or Nutrition Coach, you wanted ultimate buy in from a client that was struggling to make change, you likely wouldn’t see success in just getting them to talk about losing the last 10lbs. Or have the chain smoker dream about increasing their stamina so they can take a flight of stairs without being winded. Right? Right.
Instead, encourage the behaviours that will need to change in order to help them achieve their desired outcome. Publicly recognize your friend for making it in to the gym 4 times last week instead of just 2. Same with the smoker. Congratulate them on going without a smoke over breakfast or coffee break. Little actions like that influence behaviour that will lead to the necessary change.
When we reward behaviours rather than outcomes, we are teaching the man to fish. Not simply giving them a meal for the day.
We can positively affect our own direction by rewarding behavioural change instead of fixating on a desired outcome. With a calculated change in behaviour, the desired outcome will just happen. Try it out!